Your Relationship Is No Ones Business!

Your relationship is yours, not everyone else’s. Think of it as a precious jewel. You want to protect it, keep its whereabouts hidden, and bring it out for special occasions. Of course we like to brag on our S.O (significant other). That is completely okay! Did you get flowers? Show them off! Did you go on a cool date? Tag the location! Got a sweet note on the nightstand when you woke up? Speak about it but maybe don’t post the actual note (that all depends on how comfortable your S.O is with people knowing their intimate thoughts). The idea is to only broadcast the good things. Why? BECAUSE YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NO ONE’S BUSINESS! Trust me, it won’t benefit you any if everyone knows about the little argument that was had over the dishes or the big argument after finding some suspicious text messages. Everything you put out there is painting a picture of your relationship. I personally don’t post much about my relationship or my spouse. You can also go that route.
 
This reaches farther than social media. I understand that when things happen you may need to vent. DO NOT DISCUSS THE DETAILS OF BIG ARGUMENTS WITH ANYONE ELSE BUT YOUR S.O. If you do, because I know you will anyway, you need to be careful with who you are sharing it with. I am not talking about steering clear of those with bad intentions, but please do. I am talking about the characteristics of that person. Do not call your petty friend/relative:
  - If you are in a long-term relationship that you truly want to make work
  - that believes all men/women are evil
  - that is still in their hoe phase
  - that does not see the value in marriage  

Basically, embody Queen Bey herself. No one had any clue that Jay-Z cheated on her (who knows how many times), and they wouldn’t have known! Why? Because it is called your private life for a reason. They were able to go through the hard stuff and recover together without the mess of public scrutiny. When you have to work through pushing aside the doubt and negativity that is brought on by outside noise WHILE working to mend your relationship, it almost seems impossible.
 
The bad thing about not broadcasting everything in your relationship and all its intricacies is that people will create a narrative because you haven’t given them one. I am living it, I know. You will hear all of kinds things about your relationship that are simply not true. Please listen, IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO CORRECT THEM. Do not let it bug you. Are you happy in your relationship? Does the dynamic work for you and your S.O? Then so what! Don’t listen to criticism from people you wouldn’t go to for advice.